Thoughts on Returning Home

(I wrote the first part of this several weeks ago and couldn't decide whether or not to post it. I finally decided to post it , even though it is boring. I hope it will be a bit of a review of our time here.)

We have our plane tickets bought for our return home. We will be arriving the evening on Dec. 11th. For weeks now I've thought that when we finally have the plane tickets, I would be so excited to share the news with everyone. But for some reason, I've been feeling a little reticent at telling people. I guess that's because now it finally seems real and while I'm excited to get back to Providence and be with family and friends, I also am feeling sad that this experience is coming to an end. It has been so good for me in so many ways. It was not always easy or fun but now I can say that I'm glad I had the opportunity and I have learned a lot.

I have met some wonderful people. Some of my dear friends are other American women who are here in much the same situation as I am only on a much longer basis. Several, have children who attended the same school Alyna did. So that added another link to our bond. The friends from the ward have taught me a lot. They are amazing in their dedication to the gospel even when it isn't the popular thing to do and they have to sacrifice a lot. Many of the strong members do several key things each Sunday in able to make the ward run smoothly. I hope I can remember and learn from their example and not mumble when I have several assignments to do for church in a day.

I remember how hard everything seemed when we first got here, probably because it was. We came with what we could fit in our suitcases and it was almost 3 months before our shipment arrived. I don't think I ever started setting up a house with so liittle. We immedieately went shopping at Ikea and Makro (a little like Sams Club). We bought bedding, towels, dishes, pots and pans and some of the necessities for setting up the kitchen and being able to prepare simple meals and such. I remember one of the frustrating things in those first few weeks was having nothing but the outside garbage can to throw things away in - no grocery bags, boxes or other such things to use. (Here you buy large grocery bags every time you forget to take your to the store with you. ) It took a month or so to have the house set up so that we could function efficciently. It was a happy day when we got a clothes dryer. We found out that when the air is rather humid, clothes don't dry very quickly.

Another challenge in the beginning was money. In order to open a bank account here, you have to have a citizenship permit card. It took several months to work through all that paperwork and finally get bank account opened. They don't use checks here so we couldn't even start getting a paycheck for almost 4 months. We survived by using our US credit cards and getting cash from an ATM. It was really a big change from how we functioned at home.

We have had the opportunity to explore many new places throughout Holland as well as some other areas of Europe. I love so many things about Holland: the green fields and pastures , the many lakes and rivers, the trees in rows along the roads and in the freeway cloverleafs, roundabouts, bike lanes, the friendly people, and all the different equipment they have for maintaining the roads, bike paths and green space. It is nice to be in a nice quiet part of the world and still be able to get to amazing places in a relatively short time period - Paris is 6 hours drive, London is an 8 hour drive (plus some ferry time), Black Forest area of Germany - 5 hours... So many castles, palaces, museums, windmills, and water ways to see. It has been wonderful!

Now: After working with moving companies for a month or so, we finally have one selected and decided the type of move we will make. We had offers in from two different companies. We had each give us two bids - one for moving just our personal belongings with no furniture, the second for moving almost all our belongings including large items such as furniture, bike, etc. Until we decided which bid we were going to accept, I couldn't really make many plans on what things we needed to get rid of and what things we would be able to take. With that decision made now we can get on with the plans for heading home.

The calendar is filling up quickly and before we know it, we will be home celebrating the holidays with our family. It will help leaving here to have some fun things to look forward to at home.

Latest Sight Seeing Adventures

The old church in Leiden

Several weekends ago, Dennis needed to meet with law student in Leiden. It just happened to be Leiden's big annual celebration commemorating their independence from Spain so there was a lot going on in town that day. We had a nice "business" lunch and then walked around through the town. There was every kind of imaginable carnival game and ride, food stalls, vendors, all kinds of music, and lots of beer. The streets were so packed with people that a lot of times all we could do was shuffle along and try to weave our way through the crowds of drinking people standing around listening to different entertainers. It was all a little much and not really my kind of thing so I was so glad when we were able to leave the crowds and get back on the train to ride out to our car.

Leiden City crest.

A break in the crowd allowed me to take a picture of Dennis near the vendor
selling cotton candy. (Especially for Alyna.)

This week, I got the car one day and I went in search of fabric stores that were around the area where Dennis works. When I say around, that is used very loosely - I should say within 40 minutes in every direction. It took me into cities and countrysides that I haven't seen before. I had fun not only finding the fabric stores - which were challenging to find as they were tucked into little shops in out of the way locations - but also in checking out the other stores and shops along the way. I visited Deventer, Zutphen, Doetinchem, and Huissen.

The fountain in Deventer centrum.

I find it interesting when buildings are built right up against other buildings . In this instance the buildings jutting out from the central building are at least complimentary in design.

Part of the old original city wall that has been fortified.

The clouds were really quite interesting and beautiful although this picture does not do them justice. The sky gradually darkened and we had a huge rain storm later in the afternoon. I belive that this was taken somewhere between the villages of Vorden and Velswijk.

Thoughts on creativity

Today was another rainy and cold day so I spent the day sewing. I had a skirt I wanted to shorten and decorate a bit and I have some great fabric that I had bought to make some skirts so I had plenty of stuff to work on (besides the three quilts that I have at various stages of completion.) Yesterday, as I sewed (one of the quilts), I re-listened to all the general conference talks and the day went so quickly. So today I decided to listen to the Mormon Channel. What a wonderful service for church members. It is such a blessing to be able to listen to BYU devotionals, CES firesides, Womens Conference addresses and faith promoting stories. One of the things I thought was a great idea was a synopsis of the Ensign magazine for a particular month with the feature article and the visiting teaching message and then a few other short articles.

The feature segments that intrigued me today were the ones called "All things Creative." The first one I heard was a group of writers - which got me thinking of blogging. The second one was a mother with three severly disabled children and how she had to be creative in her home. The last was a woman who was an artist being interviewed by a man who was an architect. All were able to use their talents in different ways to do something they loved and to be creative. So here are some of the things I've thought about throughout the day:

I'm not at a very good writer but am grateful that I can write enough to put thoughts, ideas and some feelings on paper. I do have some children who are wonderful writers and I hope they will do a lot more writing in the years to come. Dennis is also a good writer and has edited my writing for many years. He has talked of wanting to write a childrens book and hopefully someday he will.

As far as art goes, I can't draw or paint at all. Well, I guess that is not quite true. I paint walls just fine and I have even gotten creative upon occasion. I enjoy sponge painting, rag rolling and trying different techniques. Now that I've had a year to look at a lot of art, I might get a little braver. Some of the things that are called art in some museums, I think I might could do something just as interesting, maybe even pleasing. I know I enjoy looking at art and learning a little about art and artists. I feel enriched by the many great classic works of art I've been able to see the past couple of years.

I think being a mother and homemaker takes a great deal of creativity (and inspiration, dedication, and determination.) I think back on all the creative methods we've used to get kids to go to bed, do chores, practice the piano, memorize scriptures, tackle big work projects, etc. Cute posters, games, competitions, rewards, punishments, and parental tantrums all had their time and place. It was always an interesting and rewarding challenge to come up with the proper thing that would prompt the desired behavior. We had a lot of fun in some of our "work" days and I am so glad my children have learned how they can make even hard and unpleasant jobs be fun or at least pleasantly bearable. They are even better than I am at motivating each other and making a task fun. (I'm thinking of garage clean-out jobs, fence painting, yard work and gardening with great memories of some pretty clever games and activities.)

Using creativity to make a house look homey as well as functional was something I've always enjoyed. Whether it was sewing, building or painting, I always enjoyed finding ways to be creative at home. Some of the time my projects turned out very helpful and useful and have served their purpose for many years. Other times, I would get done and after all the time and effort, I would look at the finish product and wonder why I didn't just go buy the darned thing all ready made. It usually gives me such a sense of pride and accomplishment when I figure out how I want something to look and then have it turn out as nicely as I had hoped. The last couple of years, I've done a lot more quilting and really enjoy that creative process. I am beginning to understand color a little better but still am very conservative when it comes to putting colors together. I like quilts that make up quickly so I can move on to the next one. I have so many I want to make and so many things to try and do that I will never be short of fabric or projects. We have a running joke in our family that when times get hard, we may go hungry but we will never go cold.

One of the things I know can be a creative skill is cooking. I apprecaite people who are very creative and good at cooking and I can be creative when I need to but cooking just isn't something I want to spend the time or energy into developing a skill in outside of providing nutritious and nice tasting meals. I can't think of many things more frustrating than to spend several hours preparing a meal, to have it eaten in 15 minutes and then spend another hour cleaning up the kitchen. No thank you. I'll just appreciate the talents of others!

I like the challenge of creating beauty in my yard and garden with flowers, trees and shrubs. I've been known to be a little extreme over the years when it comes to flower pots but they are so fun because they are quick and easy experiments. Each one is a exercise in the use of color and texture and size; dreaming of what it could look like and become. Some of my plantings haven't been very interesting or done exactly as I had hoped they would and others have brought me so much joy to look at. Flowers are one of God's great gifts of beauty and it brings me such great joy to be surrounded by them.

I really appreciate how creative Dennis is. He is amazing when it comes to solving problems and thinking outside the box. Sometimes it frustrates me during the process because I really like the safety of the inside of the box. Many people have come to him for many of his different types of problem solving abilities - from technical, to legal, to logistical.

Since we've spent this year in Europe, I've had a chance to look at a lot of different architectural styles. There are so many buildings here that I don't think we will ever see in Utah. They fascinate me. Some are just so interesting and different in their use of line and style. Some are just so odd that it makes me wonder what would possess someone to design or build such a thing. And some are so breathtakingly amazing. I will probably not ever be able to tell the difference of the different building designs or styles but I know I can appreciate what I think looks good and interesting whether it is of a classical style or a very modern design. I think I can now appreciate some of the genius on Frank Lloyd Wright even though I really don't like his style.

I hope I still have many more years that I can be creative and I can enjoy and appreciate the creative talents of others. It's a wonderful world we live in with so many opportunities to explore different talents and develope the ability to to bring joy to ourselves and others.

I love Presidents Uchtdorf's talk about creativity:

"The desire to create is one of the deepest yearnings of the human soul. You dont need money, position, or influence in order to create something of substance or beauty."

President Dieter F. Uchtdorf: The desire to create is one of the deepest yearnings of the human soul. You dont need money, position, or influence in order to create something of substance or beauty.

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